Maturity as romance.

In a Beliefnet article entitled "How to Fall in Love with Yourself," a woman named Christine Arylo is interviewed her approach to a fulfilling life.

Eventually, she learned to listen to her intuition and it led her to a revelation.

"I was with a good friend of mine -- a girl who had just gotten divorced and was miserable," she says. "She was trying to find herself and couldn’t. We were dancing in the living room to Frank Sinatra. All of a sudden, it just hit me. I looked at her and I said, 'You need to fall in love with yourself.' It was like the universe said this to me. I’m the one that’s going to teach women how to love themselves."

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Through her spiritual journey that continues to unfold, Christine Arylo’s message remains the same and it springs from the vows she made to herself: "You really have to love yourself first. Honor yourself first. Trust yourself first. You have to develop a partnership with yourself first."

It seems that there are a good many people who can only conceive of a healthy interior life in the terminology of romantic relationships. Which is fine if it helps people become better people, and apparently it does, but talking about a "relationship with yourself" makes it hard to question the concept of the romantic relationship, which is probably the source of the problem in the first place.

On the other hand, there's Kierkegaard: "[t]he self is a relation which relates itself to its own self, or it is that in the relation [which accounts for it] that the relation relates itself to its own self; the self is not the relation but [consists in the fact] that the relation relates itself to its own self."